Parenting teenagers is never easy, but raising teens in a brand-new country comes with its own set of challenges. For newcomer families, cultural differences, new school systems, and different social expectations can make the teenage years even more complicated. Parents often juggle their own adjustment while trying to guide their children through an unfamiliar environment.
To better understand the unique issues newcomer parents may face, we spoke with two legal professionals: Austin Mandall, an immigration lawyer with Mandall Immigration Law in Ottawa, and Gurasish Pal Singh, a criminal lawyer with GPS Criminal Lawyers in Brampton. Together, they shed light on both the cultural and legal challenges that families should be ready for—and how to prepare their teens for success.
Cultural Differences and Adjustment Struggles
According to immigration lawyer Austin Mandall, one of the biggest hurdles for newcomer families is navigating cultural and system differences.
“Parents often find that the way teens interact in Canada—at school, with peers, and even with authority figures—can be very different from what they were used to in their home country,” Mandall explains.
For example, some parents may expect strict obedience or a highly structured school system, while Canadian schools may encourage independence and open discussion. This shift can lead to friction at home. Teens may adapt quickly to Canadian culture, but parents can feel left behind or even disrespected when their children adopt new attitudes and habits.
Mandall emphasizes the importance of patience. “Parents should remember that teens are trying to balance two identities: the culture they’re growing up in, and the traditions of their family’s background. Supporting them through this identity mix is crucial.”
School Systems and New Expectations
Newcomer teens also face challenges adjusting to Canada’s school system, which may have different rules, teaching methods, and extracurricular opportunities. Parents sometimes struggle to understand the expectations around homework, discipline, or parent involvement.
Mandall encourages parents to stay engaged. “Attend school events, meet with teachers, and get involved,” he says. “The more parents understand the school system, the easier it will be to support their children.”
Legal Challenges: Everyday Risks for Teens
While cultural differences can cause stress, criminal lawyer Gurasish Pal Singh highlights another area of concern: legal trouble. Many parents don’t realize how quickly common teenage behavior can cross the line into criminal activity in Canada.
“Teens experiment,” Singh says. “But things like vaping, shoplifting, or breaking curfew aren’t harmless here—they can have real legal consequences.”
Vaping and Substance Use
Vaping and experimenting with substances are increasingly common among teens. Singh explains that while vaping may seem less serious than smoking or drinking, laws around selling and possessing vaping products vary by age.
“If your teen is under 19 and caught with vape products, they could face fines or other penalties,” Singh notes. “Parents need to understand the rules and explain them clearly to their children.”
Shoplifting and Peer Pressure
Another issue Singh frequently sees is shoplifting, often driven by peer pressure.
“Many teens don’t plan to steal—they do it on a dare or to fit in,” he explains. “But even a small item can lead to criminal charges. A single mistake can affect future opportunities, from jobs to university applications.”
Singh emphasizes that parents should talk openly with their teens about peer influence and remind them that being present when friends commit a crime can still cause legal problems.
Curfews and Public Behavior
For newcomer families, local bylaws such as curfews can also be unfamiliar. Some cities have rules about when minors can be in public spaces late at night without supervision. While not all municipalities enforce curfews strictly, Singh warns that repeated encounters with police can raise red flags.
“Parents new to Canada often don’t know these rules exist,” he says. “It’s important to check your local regulations so you can explain them to your teen.”
Balancing Cultural Identity and Legal Awareness
Both lawyers agree that the key for newcomer families is communication. Teens need to understand not only cultural expectations at home but also the laws and norms of their new country.
Mandall advises parents to create a safe space for questions. “Encourage your children to ask about things they see their peers doing. It’s better to have those conversations at home than after an incident.”
Singh adds that parents shouldn’t shy away from discussing legal consequences. “Teens may roll their eyes, but being upfront about the risks of certain behaviors can prevent costly mistakes.”
Practical Tips for Parents
Here are some strategies to help newcomer families navigate the teenage years in Canada:
- Stay informed about local laws: Know the rules around drinking, vaping, curfews, and other common teen issues.
- Get involved at school: Build relationships with teachers and staff to better understand your teen’s environment.
- Encourage open dialogue: Let your teen ask questions without fear of punishment, so they’ll come to you before problems escalate.
- Balance cultures: Help your child embrace Canadian culture while honoring your family’s traditions.
- Seek professional advice if needed: Lawyers, school counselors, and community organizations can provide guidance.
Raising teens is a challenge in any country, but for newcomer families, it can feel especially overwhelming. Cultural adjustments, school expectations, and legal risks all play a role in shaping a teen’s experience.
As Austin Mandall reminds us, “Parents are adjusting too. Supporting your teen as they navigate a new culture will help the whole family thrive.”
And as Gurasish Pal Singh emphasizes, “A little awareness goes a long way. Teens don’t have to be in serious trouble for their choices to affect their future.”
With open conversations, clear expectations, and awareness of Canadian laws, parents can help their teens not only stay out of trouble but also grow into confident, successful young adults.
